So, here you are, after a whirlwind of raising kids you find yourself in a new phase of life. Everything is different. Even going to the grocery store is a new experience since there are fewer people in the house to feed. And the question comes out of nowhere and really hits you...."What's next for me?"
Let me tell you, friend, you are not alone in this. Most of us are feeling the same way and wondering if we should have had this all figured out already. But really, we are just figuring it out as we go. The good news? This time—this space—is an invitation to rediscover who you are and what truly lights you up. And that’s what we’re diving into today. Grab your favorite cozy drink, and let’s talk about five simple ways to reconnect with your purpose
1. Acknowledge the Transition
First things first, let's just get this out there...midlife is weird! I said it. This scary but kind of exciting space is in between where things are shifting. Kids are growing up, your roles are changing, and you might feel a little off balance. It's ok, you're not doing anything wrong, you're just going through a season of transition.
There can be a grief that goes with what is ending and it needs to be honored. But at the same time, it's a season of new beginnings. Midlife can be full of new discoveries. You can ask yourself "Who do I want to be now? What have I been wanting to try?" It's not about having all the answers right away but it's giving yourself permission to ask the questions and exploring the possibilities.
2. Look Inward
Life can be crazy busy! And we can be so focused on doing for others that we forget to check in on ourselves. What do we want? What makes us come alive? These aren't selfish questions, they are life-giving and essential to living out our true God-given nature.
This is where journaling and mindfulness come in. Think of it as a little coffee (or tea) date with yourself. Grab a notebook and try asking:
- What brings me joy?
- What is one thing I've always wanted to try?
- What do I want my life to look like in 5 years?
Just start writing without trying to do it perfectly or polished, and you might be surprised at what comes up.
And if you're feeling stuck, I've got you covered. My Cozy Winter Self-Discovery and Reflections Guide is packed with prompts and tools to reconnect to yourself. It's like a gentle nudge in the right direction.
3. Explore New Interests
Come on midlife friends, let's take this time to explore! Think about it-how many times have you said, "I'd love to try that!" but life got in the way? Well the time is here!
This is the perfect time to dive into something new, even if you're not sure what you'd be great at. Always wanted to learn how to watercolor? Go for it! Ever wanted to try gardening? How about starting small with a few pots on the porch? Maybe it's a cooking class (I love cooking classes!), a hiking group, joining a nature club, or maybe it's something you've never even considered before. Looking for inspiration? This may help! How to Start a Creative Hobby (Even If You Think You're Not Artistic)
This point is to connect with things you'd like to try and to try them! Then you will figure out what sparks joy in your life and resonates with who you are. It's not only fun but will be a good reminder that we are always growing and evolving at every stage of life. And who knows? You might find a new passion and someone who inspires you in ways you've never expected. Need some inspiration to get you going?
4. Strengthen Relationships
A great thing to do on your journey to finding purpose in this season of life is to connect with others. Relationships, whether old or new ones, can bring so much meaning to your life.
If you are feeling isolated, start small maybe by sending a text to a friend or loved one to meet for coffee. Or if you want to do something more, you could join a group, or even starting one yourself.
For example, I have been thinking about starting a craft club here in my town. A simple once-a-month gathering where people could bring their knitting, watercolors, scrapbooking, journaling, or whatever creative project they're working on. I think it would be a fun way to meet new people and to connect with others who share similar interests.
You could do the same in your community—find people who share your interests and create a space to come together. Because here’s the truth: when you invest in relationships, you’re not just building connections—you’re building purpose.
5. Take Small Daily Actions
Here's the secret. Rediscovering your purpose in this season is usually not an overnight thing. It is a journey of small, intentional steps that really add up over time.
Start simple. Dedicate ten minutes a day to something that lights you up. Maybe it’s journaling in the morning, going for a walk to clear your mind, or carving out time to work on a hobby that you love.
So, what’s one small thing you can do today? Maybe it’s pulling out that journal and writing a few lines. Maybe it’s texting a friend and setting up a coffee date. Whatever it is, start where you are—and keep going.
Because step by step, you’re not just rediscovering your purpose. You are reconnecting with your true self. And out of that authenticity, you will be on your way to a great new season of life!